a) Outcome focused: Once you understand your WHY (and it's an enthusiastic why) you're 90% there! b) In line with your values: The more a goal aligns with our inner or core values—the EASIER it is to achieve. Yes, we can achieve goals that don't align with our values but it's harder to do and less satisfying. c) Stated in the positive: ie. I want to speak confidently in public rather than I want to stop being a nervous wreck speaking in public.

 Specific—so you know exactly what you're trying to achieve  Measurable—so you'll know when you've achieved it!  Actionable (by you)—so you are in control and can get it done  Realistic—so it is achievable  Time-Bound—has a deadline

1. What is it that you really, REALLY want? Dig deep… 2. What is the SPECIFIC outcome you're looking for? 3. What is the PAIN for you of NOT achieving your goal?

4. Is this goal in line with your life vision/overall life-plan? If you don't know, what does your gut tell you? 5. Is this goal in line with your values? Unsure? First ask yourself what's REALLY important to you in life, then ask if this goal will help you achieve more of that? 6. Are your goals something YOU truly want, or are they something you think you SHOULD have or SHOULD be doing? Tip: If it's a SHOULD, this may be an outdated goal or someone else's dream… 7. When you think about your goal does it give you a sense of deep contentment or 'rightness', happiness and/or excitement? If so, these are good signs that it’s a healthy goal. 8. If you could have this goal RIGHT NOW, would you take it? If not, why not? What issues are there? 9. How does this goal fit into your life/lifestyle? Time/effort/commitments/who else might be impacted?

10. Can you start—and maintain—the action necessary to achieve this goal? 11. How will making this change affect other aspects of your life? ie. What might you need to deal with in order to achieve this goal? 12. What's good about your CURRENT situation? ie. What's the benefit of staying right where you are? Then ask, how can I keep those good aspects while STILL making this change? 13. WHAT might you have to give up/stop doing to achieve this goal? Essentially, what's the price of making this change—and are you willing to pay it? 14. If there was something important around achieving this goal (to help you succeed, or that could get in the way) that you haven't mentioned yet, what would it be? 15. WHO will you have to BE to achieve this goal?

16. Is your goal the right size to be working on? Too big? Break down into smaller goals. Too small or uninspiring? Make it into a larger or stretch goal. 17. What would be the MINIMUM/Super-Easy level of goal to achieve? 18. What would be your TARGET level of goal to achieve? 19. What would be your EXTRAORDINARY level of goal to achieve? } GIve Yourself A Goal } Rang So You Cant } Fail To Achive

20. What RESOURCES do you already have to help you achieve your goal? Make a list! eg. things, support from people, contacts, personal qualities, knowledge, skills, money, time etc. 21. What RESOURCES do you NEED to help you achieve your goal? Make a list! } give yourself a goal } range so you can't } fail to achieve! 21 Questions Iain Patton Coaching and Mediation - Jan ‘24 to Extraordinary Goal-Setting Email: info@shelsleybank.org.uk2 Phone: +44 7970439927 IMPORTANT: REMEMBER that GOALS are there to INSPIRE YOU, not to beat yourself up with! Get in touch for a free 30 minute session to explore if coaching might be for you. Email me at info@shelsleybank.org.uk